Posted byMiss Poison
Posted onOctober 15, 2013
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Learning To Love Our Bodies
I’ve been meaning to share this blog for quite some time now. It breaks my heart that any child would ask if raisins are fattening. I openly admit to having an image problem, but I can tell you that it did not start until I left gymnastics and it didn’t begin at home. In fact, I never saw anything wrong with myself physically (except for obvious things that all girls find issue with at one time in their life or another) until people started pointing my flaws out left and right. All of a sudden, I was avoiding mirrors and wouldn’t purchase new clothes.
As women, we make this worse. Instead of building each other up, we tear each other down. It’s disgusting and I don’t want to be a part of that. If I think someone is beautiful, be it inner or outer beauty (occasionally it is both, but not all the time,), then I find absolutely nothing wrong with saying it. That doesn’t mean I want to be in a relationship with them, it simply means I’m not blind.
Zero and Double Zero are not sizes, even if that’s your “natural weight”. It should not be anyone’s goal of perfection because perfection is an illusion. Be yourself. Be comfortable in the skin you’re in because you’re going to be in that skin for a very long time. Be kind to yourself and try to achieve self-acceptance, because it’s so much easier than “perfection”.
Understanding The Ups & Downs Of Bipolar Disorder
What To Say To A Loved One Who Suffers With Depression
“What do you have to be depressed about?!” would be high on the list of things NOT to say. Yes, occasional depression is normal, but anything lasting longer than two weeks is not. Be gentle and take people seriously when they trust you enough to share their thoughts regarding depression. Too many people die because no one took them seriously, or because “friends” and “loved ones” abandoned them completely.
To Understand Or Not Understand…
“Some friends don’t understand this. They don’t understand how desperate I am to have someone say, ‘I love you and I support you just the way you are because you’re wonderful just the way you are.’ They don’t understand that I can’t remember anyone ever saying that to me. I am so demanding and difficult for my friends because I want to crumble and fall apart before them so that they will love me even though I am no fun, lying in bed, crying all the time, not moving. Depression is all about ‘If you loved me you would.” ―Elizabeth Wurtzel
*This is for all of us who are battling something… Give ’em hell!!*
*This story really touched my heart. Growing up, even though both of my parents were at the dinner table each night, I always felt disconnected from our massive extended family. The only people who were around were close family friends, my Grandparents, and my Aunt. I have since lost both of my parents and the closest family members (physically, not emotionally) are about 100 miles away. I have no sense of community, I have no support when the going gets tougher than tough because everyone is out-of-state or out of the country, and those that are physically closest simply do not care to be present in my life. People talk to me on the phone and they e-mail me on occasion, but that’s not a consistent relationship.
I have been assured by my best friend and my Aunt that when I get married and have kids, I will have a sense of community. I hope that they’re right. In the meantime, I think this story sheds some light on military families and the sacrifices they make. I have family & friends that have served this country and as we make our way towards the 4th of July, stories like this that make me proud to be an American. My sense of community though, that’s still a work in progress.*
“Choose your battles wisely. After all, life isn’t measured by how many times you stood up to fight. It’s not winning battles that makes you happy, but it’s how many times you turned away and chose to look into a better direction. Life is too short to spend it on warring. Fight only the most, most, most important ones, let the rest go.” ―C. JoyBell C.
Praying for my brother as he engages in a very important battle. I’m here for you 110% M.
I spend a lot of time in Massachusetts because I have family there, and it’s my second home. I’ve spent my entire life going to Boston, Marblehead, Salem, Cape Cod, etc. The bombings Monday were horrific, but I find myself so speechless that I can’t really discuss it. It’s too “shades of 9/11” for me, so you probably won’t see me say much on the subject, except that I find the President attempting to turn this into something it’s not deplorable. A major U.S. city being bombed has nothing to do with guns, get off your high horse with your ulterior motives and start doing something positive to protect the people of this country.
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