A Further Sign…

“A further sign of health is that we don’t become undone by fear and trembling, but we take it as a message that it’s time to stop struggling and look directly at what’s threatening us. ” ―Pema Chödrön

4 thoughts on “A Further Sign…

    • Always go with your intuition. If you train yourself to go with your first instinct, it helps with everything else.

      I’m the last person in the world that is conflict free. I don’t avoid it, I believe in tackling it so that it’s done, but if I’m angry I definitely need a cooling down period first or I am unpleasant as all get out.

      • Conflict with people I don’t know doesn’t bother me too much, but I will go to all lengths to avoid conflict/make peace. It actually can make me physically sick.
        It’s funny really, because I can deal with all kinds of pain and trauma but not conflict, unless you’ve backed me in a corner and I’m angry, then I charge in head first like an idiot. like I said my biggest area of weakness.
        But I figure the first step to fixing it is recognizing it…

      • Same here. Though it depends on what gets said and the approach.

        I am NOT a peacemaker, not by any means. I think we all take on roles within our families, both when we are young, and as we get older, and the roles tend to stick. I have always been the defender, protector, and the first person to put her foot down, and that really hasn’t changed at all. If anything, I am much more fierce now than I ever was. My Dad used to call me his pitbull, but he meant it affectionately.

        I have found that most people who are peacekeepers tends to get physically sick from it, especially over time. It sucks all your positive energy and drains you. It is not worth it. In some situations, we all have to compromise, but don’t ever compromise yourself.

        You’re right, the first step to correcting something is knowing that it is an issue and going from there. That is progress. I believe in owning my issues and working on them to move forward. I still have moments when I have to count to 50 or walk away, but all in all, I’m getting better at handling most of my temper.

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