“There are two kinds of friendship: the beneficial friendship and the erroneous friendship. The erroneous friendship balances on the principle of “The closer we are, the more okay it is for me to say anything I want to you and for me to treat you any way that I want to, and for me to disrespect you and take advantage of you.”, while a true friendship is rooted in this principle: “The closer we are, the more respect I have for you, the better I will treat you, the higher I will regard you, the more good things I will wish for you.”
You will know someone is a true friend by basis of observing their actions towards you as the friendship grows deeper. A true friend will continue to hold you in higher and higher regard, while the error of a friend will see your goodwill and newfound fondness as basis to do and say whatever he/she wants, that is disrespectful and non-beneficial to you.” ―C. JoyBell C.
Dedicated to my true girls: Marion, Shani, & Stefanie and to my new girls: Britt, Dawn, & Lillian. Friendship in any form is never an excuse to treat people as less than they deserve to be treated.
Yes, yes and yes!
This year I’m doing a friendship cleanse. Letting go of people who hurt or take advantage of me because of my caring personality. Just because we’re friends does not give them the right to manipulate, abuse or use me because I let them in. Good friends are hard to come by, and I would rather have one true friend than be surrounded by many false ones – it is the loneliest position to be in.
I love this blog. It is so extremely right on point. For me personally I have always been drawn to the male species for friends. I cannot stomach all the drama that tends to go along with female friendships. I thought I had the epitome of a true female friendship . . . and then I got divorced. She stood by me through my entire divorce and then out of no where she took the side of my ex-husband revealing to him our every so confidential discussions. I have never been close to any female since that betrayal until I started blogging! I like the comment above of the friendship cleanse! I need to do that. I feel comfortable with the friendship I am building with you Lisa, for me it’s a giant leap! Thank you for getting me back on track and building a true female friendship.